Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays that people can’t seem to agree on. There are a lot of different emotions tied to this day, and they all seem to depend on relationship status. If you’re in a new relationship, you should feel excitement and passion. If you’re in a committed, long-term relationship, you should feel love and comfort, while you use this day to bring back the romance that might have slightly faded over time. If you’re single, you’re supposed to feel lonely, sad, mad, and be ready with the pizza guy’s phone number on speed dial.
Personally, I’m a believer in Valentine’s Day. I mean, what’s wrong with a day dedicated to someone you love? I’m also a believer in Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, National best friend day, National siblings day, National wine day, National taco day, and pretty much every other national ‘holiday’ that gives you a shameless excuse to binge on the things that are supposed to be bad for you. Don’t let anyone try to tell you that eating an entire pizza is wrong when it’s National Pizza Day. You are just paying tribute to the god-sent cheesy, carb-filled delicacy in the only appropriate way. What I’m really getting at here though, is that Valentine’s Day is just supposed to be another one of these holidays that is dedicated to celebrating a specific thing.
Do I think Valentine’s Day is overrated? Yes. Maybe. I think that these days, it’s become more about single people making jokes about how sucky their day is going to be, or how many chicken nuggets they’re gunna eat while they wash them down with a cheap box of wine and watch the Notebook. It’s become about using social media to show off the flowers, life-sized teddy bears, makeup, jewelry, clothes, etc. that your boyfriend got you, in hopes to receive more comments reading “goals” than the next person. I’m not saying it’s always wrong or annoying to post about your significant other, because after all, that’s what the day is about. I just think that the intention behind it should be more than materialistic, that’s all.
Those of you who are lucky enough to have someone to share the day with, enjoy it. Whether you choose to spend it doing all the cheesy Valentine’s Day things you can imagine, or to treat it like just another day because you already love each other every day, remember not to forget the purpose of the day. Maybe use today to say or do the things you’ve been holding back out of fear. I learned the hard way that leaving things unsaid only leads to self-resentment. Appreciate your time together. No matter how much time you’ve had with them, you never know when you might be left wishing you could have had just one day more.
As for my fellow single people, some advice for this Valentine’s Day – put down the chicken nuggets. Put down the box of wine. Okay actually, you can have wine. But you AT LEAST deserve something that doesn’t pour out of a spout. Take some time for yourself. Whatever it is that makes you feel happy and at peace, do that. Watch your favourite movie, go to your favourite coffee shop, have a bath, hang out with your best friend, or whatever it might be. Any other day I would definitely say go buy yourself flowers because personally that always makes me happy, but dear GOD they are expensive around Valentine’s Day. So TOMORROW go buy yourself some discounted flowers.
Love yourself this Valentine’s Day. Don’t spend the day being bitter toward those who have someone special to share the day with. Someday you will too. So in the meantime, spend the day loving the one person who you’re stuck with for your entire life. Remember, some people don’t have a mom to share mother’s day with, or a dad to share father’s day with, or are on a no-carb diet on National Donut Day. So if you have no valentine this Valentine’s Day, you will be okay.